After the last few posts exploring the harm trauma survivors experience in the church, I wanted to start painting a positive vision for what cultivating trauma-safe churches might look like. This is likely to be one of those topics that perpetually has more to be said about it, so I suspect it’ll be a topic … Continue reading Creating Safe Churches
Tag: Safety
Understanding Safety
I’ve done a lot of writing about the importance of cultivating “safety” recently, but some recent conversations have highlighted to me that not everyone understands this word the same way. While trauma survivors and psychologists use “safety” to denote a very particular experience, I’ve noticed a lot of Christians assume that “safety” is synonymous with “comfort.” When we trauma survivors talk about the need to feel safe, we’re not asking to avoid discomfort or even pain. In fact, we’re often better at tolerating uncomfortable feelings than anyone else, both emotionally and physically. What we’re asking for is the space to honour our God-given bodies with a felt assurance that we are not at risk of experiencing harm—a felt assurance so visceral it allows our bodies, nervous systems, and brains to engage in learning and connecting as God invites us to do.
Presumption of Safety
In my last post I used the phrase ‘presumption of safety’ and promised to say more about it soon. This is a phrase that (to my knowledge) I’ve coined in order to finally put into words an experience that has caused me such extensive isolation and pain. The phenomenon it describes came to my awareness … Continue reading Presumption of Safety
Sanctuary
A few months ago, I got to see the Australian premiere of one of my favourite musicals: The Hunchback of Notre Dame (the musical). Now there’s so much I could say about why I love this narrative and the depth of insights it offers into so many dimensions of the human experience, from exploring the social model of disability, to the relationship of church and state, to critiquing purity culture (quite literally!), but perhaps the most prevalent theme that stood out to me that night was the concept of sanctuary. This theme of sanctuary runs throughout the entire show and carries a number of meanings, including both the Medieval practice of fugitives claiming ‘sanctuary’ in the Catholic church and also the broader meaning of ‘sanctuary’ as a safe space to be protected from the world’s harms.