Paradigm Shifts

One week ago I was officially diagnosed with ADHD. It’s been a couple of years of questioning whether I might have ADHD, and about 15 months of actively pursuing a diagnosis (don’t get me started on that whole long process!). During this time I began identifying as ‘ADHD-adjacent’ and found that much of the language for common ADHD experiences, like object impermanence or hyperfocus, were helpful ways to describe what I was experiencing. Those who are close to me probably got sick of hearing me talk about ADHD experiences constantly, and as my housemate put it last week, “we all knew/suspected.” But as soon as the diagnosis became official last week, something strange happened.

Learning Family

When I first started this blog about a year ago, one of my main goals was to share stories. By nature, I tend to intellectualise a bit and default to sharing ideas rather than stories, but I’m becoming more and more convinced that there’s a deeper kind of learning that happens through embodied experiences and stories. Some learning is more caught than taught: especially the kind of learning that involves character growth and worldview shifts. So I wanted to share with you a story of how my church family taught me about family.

Belonging

A few weeks ago I was on a late an evening walk through the park talking to a dear friend on the phone about how lockdown and social distancing have affected us this year. Both of us are people that have always been good at long-distance friendships, and we’ve both managed to stay closely connected to our friends this year through phone calls, video calls, 1-1 catchups and small group gatherings. But something was missing.

How Singleness Prepared me for the Coronapocalypse

As someone who [mostly] identifies as an extroverted people-person, I’ve been extremely surprised to find how much I’m enjoying the self-isolation life. I might even go so far as to say I feel like I am flourishing more right now than I have in years. This has been a bizarre experience to make sense of, especially as I see people all around me struggling with loneliness, anxiety or despair.