This is a sacred day. While in my time zone it's already June 20th, right now my siblings in the US are currently celebrating Juneteenth. June 19th marks the day formerly enslaved Black Texans learned of their liberation. "The formerly enslaved immediately began to celebrate with prayer, feasting, song, and dance.”
Tag: Church
Pride as Diversity
As I mentioned in my last post, this Pride month, I want to offer some devotional reflections on key themes of Pride and share how they've helped me connect freshly with different aspects of the gospel story. The first theme is Celebration—or more specifically, Celebration of Diversity. Putting aside for a moment Christian concerns about … Continue reading Pride as Diversity
Pridemas Season
Today, I'm excited for the first day of the new month. Today marks the beginning of [Australian] winter and more importantly the day my mobile data finally resets after I depleted all my data last month. It also marks the beginning of Pridemas Season starting June 1. In the words of my friend Reuben: Pridemas … Continue reading Pridemas Season
How Conservative Christians Can Support Queer People
This week I’ve been thinking about how there’s so much more space for middle ground than we sometimes acknowledge. I don’t mean to say that being in the center or remaining neutral on important issues is superior, but I think even while different communities hold opposing views strongly, there’s still a lot of room to … Continue reading How Conservative Christians Can Support Queer People
Trans Day of Visibility – Stealing Easter?
Conservative feathers were ruffled by Trans Day of Visibility falling on the same day as Easter, but for me, it was a plus.
How to Talk to Kids about Queer People
A while back, I got a phone call from an old pastor friend who was struggling with a difficult situation and wanted my insights on how he could approach it. It turned out that his kid’s kindergarten was celebrating “Wear it Purple Day” and inviting all the kids to wear purple clothes to celebrate the … Continue reading How to Talk to Kids about Queer People
Creating Safe Churches
After the last few posts exploring the harm trauma survivors experience in the church, I wanted to start painting a positive vision for what cultivating trauma-safe churches might look like. This is likely to be one of those topics that perpetually has more to be said about it, so I suspect it’ll be a topic … Continue reading Creating Safe Churches
Understanding Safety
I’ve done a lot of writing about the importance of cultivating “safety” recently, but some recent conversations have highlighted to me that not everyone understands this word the same way. While trauma survivors and psychologists use “safety” to denote a very particular experience, I’ve noticed a lot of Christians assume that “safety” is synonymous with “comfort.” When we trauma survivors talk about the need to feel safe, we’re not asking to avoid discomfort or even pain. In fact, we’re often better at tolerating uncomfortable feelings than anyone else, both emotionally and physically. What we’re asking for is the space to honour our God-given bodies with a felt assurance that we are not at risk of experiencing harm—a felt assurance so visceral it allows our bodies, nervous systems, and brains to engage in learning and connecting as God invites us to do.
Survivorship Bias
One of the common responses to my last few posts on trauma topics is the shock of well-meaning people when they learn the extent of harm caused in the church. Sometimes it looks like denial (the people whose response to hearing stories of harm is ‘that’s not how I remember it’), but for the most … Continue reading Survivorship Bias
Presumption of Safety
In my last post I used the phrase ‘presumption of safety’ and promised to say more about it soon. This is a phrase that (to my knowledge) I’ve coined in order to finally put into words an experience that has caused me such extensive isolation and pain. The phenomenon it describes came to my awareness … Continue reading Presumption of Safety